Pain….why?

Mourning what was lost,, grieving what never was 

Many of us questioned, I know I did, what has become of my life? 🤷🏽‍♀️.

We may be clinging to past hopes and dreams, or memories before the chaos 勞began. We may be reluctant to accept our losses, fearing what our grief will consume us if we acknowledge it. We may not have had the relationship we wanted nor we were treated in the ways we hoped or expected.  To cope with our pain, we may have created a fantasy of the perfect family, the perfect childhood, the perfect relationship, or the perfect life.
There lies a delicate balance between avoiding our pain and giving ourselves time to deal with it. We don’t want to circumvent we are ready.  Much like a child who needs the comfort of a security blanket, we may need to hold on to our dreams until we become ready to face life without them. We wouldn’t rip away the blanket, when feeling safe enough, the child will let go of it. We trust that ourselves this same compassion and understanding, trusting that when the time is right we will be ready to face our losses. 輸

~ I heard someone say, ‘the answer to pain is in the pain, & I decided to let go of control & allow the grief & God to take me wherever I was meant to go. ‘~ 

When we reach this point of letting go, we can begin to see others for who they are, rather than who we hope they will become.  With this acceptance can also come a profound sense of loss. Many of us didn’t get the lives we hoped for, but obsessing about what we perceive to be life’s unfairness only sets us up for more misery.  Eventually we learn to accept what is,even if its not the way we would like it to be. 

~No one is trying to help me restore my lost dreams.  Miraculously, I am finding them while, I CANNOT change the course of my family history, I am gaining the strength & support of others in my program along with the help of God, to allow me to rebuild a new & far richer life for myself than I ever could have planned or dreamed.~ 

The pain is in the resistance to Let go…..God’s got this. 